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[quote=Anonymous]OP you are overthinking this and you didn’t do anything wrong and didn’t offend.

BUT.

We Non Gift People have to decide how much we want to indulge the Gift People.

If a Gift Person asks me what I want for Christmas, the honest answer would be “nothing or cash.” But that would be offensive to the Gift Person. The Gift Person enjoys the picking out and they are conveying through the picking out that they love and cherish you. It may seem odd for that message to come in scented candle form, but what happened is the Gift People and the Non Gift People evolved from different amoebas or something and we can only learn about each other but never truly understand.

So if you are answering to please the giver, rather than in full honesty, you need to give them a category in which they can still choose something. And the category needs to suit their shopping preferences, because Gift People are often also Shopping People and they are combining rituals.

Your mother in law probably blithely ignored your suggestion and went on her merry way, so don’t sweat it. [/quote]

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