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[quote=Anonymous]I think you should try online therapy with someone who is t so personally tied to the area.
My suspicion is that you followed a professor-husband and are in a “college town” that feels remote and isolated and provincial compared to where you lived before. (Ask me why I think this)
And obviously the answer is to embrace where you are for now and find things that bring you joy. Join a gym, a church, a mom’s group, anything! And start joining in their traditions and community rituals to see if you can find a community of your own. Also maybe shift your mindset to see if you can step into their world and learn what it is that makes them appreciate a slower pace, a different way of approaching life. Maybe this season you are experiencing is meant to show you how to live in gratitude and humility rather than bitterness and irritation. Pretend you are the heroine in one of those Hallmark Christmas movies who moves from the big city to a smaller town and instead of listing all the things you hate about but (which is essentially Act One), step into Act Two of the story and embrace the town and its people and traditions. Just as an experiment. Wake up every day ready to find the good and embrace where you are. (After all—what choice do you have at the moment? Apart from making your husband miserable and feeding your own depression??)
And in 6 months, if you are still in this dark place, start plotting a move and help him figure out his next career move that can get you back to DMV or wherever you think you’d rather be. But OP, don’t blow up your marriage in the meantime. Try to see from your DH’s point of view that you are making this adjustment 10x harder for him as well with your misery.
You are choosing to wallow in it and you could deliberately and consciously flip that switch tomorrow. Clinical depression is a diagnosis where your sadness and misery and despair has no obvious cause, but your depression is circumstance-related with an obvious cause. But you can’t fix that cause at the moment so resolve to fix the outlook—at least temporarily. Why not try? It might make a huge difference.[/quote]

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