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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother in law has a history of not getting along with people - primarily due to being judgmental and alientating friends and family.  She and her husband (though married) have fought for years, and they go through long periods of time when they don't speak to one another.  This year, she turned her focus on my husband and me and she and my husband are not getting along at all.  There have been several awful fights between them this year in particular, and we haven't spoken to or seen her since May.   In May, my husband asked her to please get together with both of us so we can talk through the issues between us, but she refused to go if I was involved.  As many of her accusations involved me personally, my husband didn't want to go and have some big conciliation if I wasn't involved, so we decided to just take a break from her and the relationship in general.   And before people start piping up that we're problem and I'm not looking at it from her side, let me just say that her accusations are utterly, wholly devoid of any factual basis and are, quite frankly, laughable.  It would almost be funny if she wasn't so mean.

[b]Anyway...we haven't seen her since May; she also hasn't seen or spoken to her grandchildren since then.  It has been an unsettling time. On the one hand, we've been free of the drama and anger and hurt that she brings to our lives.  On the other hand, neither of us are comfortable having a relative we don't speak to - it seems so extreme and unhealthy.  However, it's clearly not healthy to have someone in our lives who is full of anger and slings nasty and inaccurate accusations at us.  [/b]

We would like to make one last effort to rebuild the relationship before we give up entirely, and we're thinking of proposing that we all go to family counseling.  I doubt she'll agree, but on the off chance that she would do it, can anyone recommend someone local (DC or MD) who could work with a profoundly dysfunctional family to help us rebuild our relationship?
  
Many thanks in advance.  [/quote]

Its unhealthy to obsess about insisting someone can and will change because you want them to do so. Your MIL is who she is. No ammount of family counseling will fix her but it might help you deal with whatever guilt or bad feelings you have that your MIL is not the person you want her to be.[/quote]

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