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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah - I have 4 yo fraternity twin girls and there are some dumb/intrusive questions, though fewer as they’ve gotten older. The only one that still bothers me is the “do twins run in your family”, which is usually just a back door attempt to figure out if we did IVF. But for that and most of the others I go with good humored honesty because anything else is too much work. Now that they’re older, I actually like to have the girls answer the questions themselves: are you twins? Are you identical? Who’s older?… I think it succeeds in making the nosy strangers behave a bit nicer, and allows our responses to be a bit fuzzy bc, well kids answer stuff like this in funny, unexpected ways. (Full disclosure: I never confirm or deny fertility treatments, but folks almost never ask outright.) Sorry- no real advice for you but definitely able to commiserate. [/quote]
We used IVF, but when people ask if twins run in our family, I can honestly say we’re related to 2 other sets of twins and a set of triplets.

For my children, the most damaging question is who is the older one. It’s asked with surprising frequency, and no one — not one person — has ever asked who is the younger one. It makes the “younger” one feel inferior, even though the age difference is just a few minutes. I always wonder why people ask that question about twins. They’re the same age; one was just closer to the exit.[/quote]

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