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[quote=Anonymous]Anything to do but wait?

DD is in grad school and just sent a letter saying that she is skipping Thanksgiving and a planned February Caribbean trip and will be cutting off contact. She also asked that I stop sending her money. No explanation. Her mother and I were amicably divorced 5 years ago and she seemed to have taken it in stride. After the split, DD and I went on a couple trips together every year and I've heard her tell her friends that we are close.  Until this letter, she called and texted a few times a week.

The big development this year was introducing my GF to DD. She was the first GF I have introduced DD to. We had a lovely dinner, DD was her usual charming and witty self and was very engaged with my GF. I was proud of DD and my GF was impressed. DD then joined us at my GF's beach house over the summer and the three of us spent many hours together. I didn't think anything was amiss. FWIW, my new partner is my age.

I talked to DD's mother/my ex who says DD is fine and that there isn't anything to be worried about. She says I should just be patient. My ex insists that DD knows I love her and that she loves me. The ex's theory is that DD just needs to adjust to my new life and will come back around eventually. My ex says DD meeting my GF killed any hope DD had that the family she grew up in would return. She does not think DD is isolating herself or depressed. She doesn't think I did anything awful. Rather she thinks DD needs to accept change and that DD could benefit from a little more independence from us. She suggests that I just text DD regularly to remind her that I will always be there for her.

I'm thinking about writing a letter to DD, but I'm not sure what to say. I can apologize for the hurts I have caused her and ask to make amends. I can also tell DD how much I miss her and want her back.  GF says I am on the right track. But I keep feeling it is insincere to apologize when I don't know what I did. [/quote]

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