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[quote=Anonymous]I posted earlier about my DS having issues in his private middle school. We won't know for sure until next week, but it looks like there's a not slim chance he could be asked to leave (or at the very least, we might be asked if we would like to leave).

I'm pretty devastated, and he will be, too. I think it may be a wakeup call for him to realize his $(#& will not be tolerated in middle school. It's too bad because I don't think he has done anything truly horrible, but he has made some bad choices. It's a combo of that and the school not really being able to support his social needs (he has ADHD and autism).

I don't know why he made the choices he did. His behavior at home has been quite good recently, and he has been happy there. He struggles with making friends and with needing to do provocative things to impress people. We've done a lot of work with him and us on things, but this one has been hard - not least of all because we aren't there at school. Do social skills classes help with this type of thing?

My real question is - do we send him to public or try to get him into one of the very small privated nearby? We are not in the DC area, so our options are limited, and he was going to a very good medium-sized private. There are two very small privates that go up to 8th grade but are mostly elementary kids. He would be in a class of just 10 kids or so, with maybe 30 in the whole middle school.

He would like to go to the big public, but I'm hesitant to give him what he wants as a sign that he can screw up at private and then just go ahead and go to the public (which he would have preferred originally but more or less forgot about). He will get into trouble at the public, although we won't hear about it until it's something major because it's a big school. It will mean he probably ends up flying under the radar and potentially getting into things he shouldn't before we can stop them. On the other hand, the very small privates would feel like a huge punishment to him, and I'm not really sure they're academically that great. I think they would probably be good for him socially, but they also wouldn't help prepare him for high school (for which there are very few options, all of them pretty large).[/quote]

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