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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's totally fine. You give up control when you divorce. You don't get to second-guess reasonable decisions or insist on parental care at all times.

OP, it sounds like you want your ex to have missed work out of some misguided notion of "fairness"-- "I used my annual leave so he should use his annual leave". That's nuts. If the child was safe, well cared-for, and reasonably happy (for a sick kid), then you have nothing to complain about.[/quote]

I'm stepmom, wondering if I did something wrong.  I wanted opinions not affected by stepmom dislike.  I had the ability to use leave, so I did. Now there's backlash.

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You're fine, you didn't do anything wrong to do it this one time.

I think it may benefit you to consider whether you want to be rescuing your DH in situations like this. It's all too easy for the new wife to think her DH is great and the ex is terrible. But the reality may be something a little different. Does he habitually play the "I'm so busy" card to put his parenting responsibilities on women?

And remember, his ex signed up to parent with *him*. She didn't sign up to parent with you, she didn't choose you, and she doesn't want to be fobbed off on you because he's Mr. Busy And Important At Work. Ideally you'll all work as a team, but that'll go better if you stop standing in his shoes.

His ex is probably gonna be this way ongoing. Eyes wide open.[/quote]

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