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[quote=Anonymous]I've seen the same therapist for several years, and he's helped me through some difficult things (grief, marital conflict, etc).  I have three kids and have worked very part-time for a while (with stretches of full SAH motherhood), and my plan has been for me to ramp up my work when my youngest started K. I had a fairly prestigious / high-achieving career pre-kids and so am able to consult on a freelance basis pretty easily. Money is not an issue.

My youngest started K this Fall (so all three kids are 8:30-3:00 in school) and I simply have not found the time to work anything resembling full time.  This actually does not bother me, at all.  It's important I continue to be there for sick days, appointments, weekday school events, etc.  I've obviously significantly sacrificed my career already and I'm not going to NOT do the field trips or class parties now (which seems to me as a lose-lose; I let my career suffer so I could be there for these things in an ongoing way, not just before the age of 5).  I just want to make sure I have something that is mine that I can shift my focus to as my kids get older, and I feel like I do.

I feel like my therapist can't stop judging my choices.  He said something once about how he thinks both parents should work full-time because he "was raised to value education" - ironic since I am WAY more highly educated than he is.  He also seems a bit like a clueless man who doesn't understand the mental load of raising kids in the first place.  And finally, he seems shocked that we have so many sick days (spread over three kids) and random days off school (he has two young kids still in daycare).

Do I say something to him about this, or just let it go and change topics as needed?  I *hate* getting into conversations with anyone about this sort of thing, and I feel like how a person spends their time from a work / not work perspective is an extremely personal choice and the only thing that matters is whether the individuals within a family are happy with their division of labor and kids are well cared for, and that can look different for each family.  But I feel like the nature of therapy requires I be honest about these things.

Thoughts?[/quote]

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