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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds less like anxiety and more like a power dynamic?  [/quote]

Not at all. It's anxiety. Clearly. NP here, but this is classic. [/quote]

OP here - I have to admit that my daughter was not diagnosed with anxiety. She looked anxious and she made me feel anxious, but this could just be a power dynamic issue.

I have expended tremendous energy since she was 2 years old at skirting around power struggles with humor, distraction, explanation… I used  puppets. Sometimes her shoes and socks had a little chat with her when I was desperate. She is all about power struggles and fairness issues.

So, it doesn’t have to be anxiety. Maybe it is just an emotional dysregulation power cycle that I’m trapped in.

Tonight, she was describing to me how she needs to dump a friend because she feels the friend was rude to her. I feel like I’m trying to manage her misunderstandings about her world all the time.

Thank you for the suggestions.[/quote]

Autism/ADHD comes with anxiety. It's a given. Power struggles happen b/c kids are anxious. Don't give in, set boundaries, etc, but I'd speak to a professional about treating the anxiety behind it. Emotional dysregulation IS disability related - it's not a power struggle. Thinking like this is going to put you two at odds. Kids need boundaries, but they aren't manipulating you on purpose. They are trying to fill an emotional need. I'd bet dollars to donuts its anxiety, w/ an audhd kid it's basically a guarantee.[/quote]

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