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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hopefully having some distance next year will help with this.

The "worrying" doesn't stop, but you can learn to compartmentalize it and live with it without having it ruin your health.

[b]As moms, kids will often dump their worries/problems on us[/b], then they will feel better because they got it out, and meanwhile, we will pick up the mantle and continue carrying it.  Remind yourself that it's through struggle that there is growth.  Also remind yourself that most kids end up at a college they are happy with.  The amount of stress with college admissions these days is not worth the prize.  Their admission stats are not a grade for their parenting.  They will be fine.  Don't add the stress of your anxiety to what they are already feeling.  Be a rock of confidence that everything is going to be ok.[/quote]

Yes! My kids are both dumpers. Yesterday dd came back from school and she dumped 3 fairly big issues onto me within 5 minutes. I would really like NOT to worry, but when I get dumped on, my instinct is to tense up about it and want to offer advice/fix it. Lately I am trying to not do this as much, but it requires actively tuning my kids out completely, letting a lot go that I theoretically find important and would want to help with. So there is a constant dumping on me and then simultaneously telling me not to worry about it, when really had I worried about it the situation might not have happened in the first place. It's disorienting. I'd rather my kids share much much less sometimes because I'd be blissfully ignorant and happy.[/quote]

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