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[quote=Anonymous]I am the Erin Kalkwarf you are talking about.  Granted it took me a year later to find this, but I did.
I was placed with my adoptive family when I was only 2 weeks old. 
My birth parents are not together, they split up after my younger sister (who is only a year younger than me) was born.  She too was put up for adoption, but my birth father and my paternal grandfather were able to get her out before she was placed and was raised by my father's side of the family.  My biological father, mother and sister all in in the Indianapolis area with in miles of each other.
While I was growing up, I was always told by my adoptive parents that they would support and help me in whatever way they could if I wanted to search for my biological family.  My adoption was a closed adoption - my adoptive family didn't even have medical history.  The only paperwork we had was from the agency which showed that my biological mother was under the age of 16 and that her parents were the ones who signed the papers.
I searched for my biological family but obviously failed - with no information and everything being closed, I just couldn't afford it.
I resented my birth mother for not looking for me.  I wondered all the time if my birth father even knew if I existed.  I wanted to know if I had any siblings - heck, I wanted to know if anyone knew I existed, or if I was "the skeleton in the closet".
Long story short - my sister finally did find me. My first contact was the Thursday after fathers day, 2011.  I flew out to Indiana 2 months later to meet them.
Since then I have built a great relationship with my sister and my birth dad - the relationship between my birth mother isn't as strong.
My adoptive family and parents were and still are very supportive of this.  Infact, my oldest son graduated in June of this year and my sister, father, adoptive parents and siblings finally got to meet too - I don't think my situation could have turned out any better![/quote]

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