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[quote=Anonymous]Looking for advice on whether to "settle" or try to see if I can find a better match.

I'm a woman in my mid 50s, with grown children. I was widowed in my mid 40s and began dating again at 50. I've been in a relationship with someone for four years now with a man a few years older than me, and we started living together three years ago. Our relationship started out strong but over time has weakened.  Hes nice, funny, and loyal, but he doesn't offer much in terms of emotional connection. On weekends he likes to watch sports and he spends a lot of time on the couch doing that. I like talking about books and current events and he's not into that. We have fun together but it's superficial.

Our relationship is pleasant but he's not the soulmate that I hoped to spend the rest of my life with.  I think a lot about the deep conversations and talking for hours that I had with my late husband, and I wonder if I could find that again.

If I were i younger, I think I could have a chance of finding that. But in my mid 50s, the dating pool is very small and the options are so limited. The men I know in this age group who are single have major baggage or issues.

Is the wise decision to give up on the soulmate idea and be happy with a so-so relationship that is more about easy companionship than deep connection?  Or risk trying to find that and potentially lose a "good enough" relationship? [/quote]

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