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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have a really messed up parent situation, it can really impact how you relate to your siblings. You need to just let this go and accept what you have.

My sisters and I are not close due to how messy our parents were. It sucks, but my youngest sister has cut us off at some points and now has a really limited texting relationship with me and my other sister. I have realized over the decades that it just really isn’t about us as sisters. If we all met as adults, we would probably really like each other. I think being close with the two of us just brings too much painful history into play for her.

My other sister and I are “closer” in that we text more and talk on the phone. If we happen to be in the same city, we see each other but we do go out of our way to visit. Again, I think it can just be too much. My sister wants to talk a lot about our parent situation, and I’m just not interested. But I love her a lot.[/quote]

Let me add. My kid had cancer and it didn’t make any of us closer. You have unrealistic expectations. One sister has met my teenager once. The other has seen her maybe 8 times.  Your brother isn’t going to suddenly try to be close to your kid. You have to find your support on this elsewhere.[/quote]

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