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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^^oops, sorry!

Anyhow, it has only gotten better and better through the years.  We literally can't get enough of each other.  I assumed this is how people are when they truly love each other.  What goes wrong?

I have my theories, but I'd like to hear actual explanations.[/quote]

You have a relationship with one spouse that has average to low natural libido. Just aren't spontaneously horny - probably as much because of their bad luck in the hormonal lottery as because of anything their spouse is or isn't doing. But, the newness of the relationship and solid effort makes up for it. By the time you have a young kid or two, the newness is gone and the effort you were putting into your spouse - and especially into sex with your spouse goes away. Now it's an issue. And, if your spouse was treating you right before, resentment over lack of sex is going to cause the spouse not to treat you especially well. And so you get resentful over the mistreatment. Rinse. Repeat. Escalate.

Or, according to the website linked in the OP, it might be because a spouse settled for a beta-spouse. Someone who is a decent provider and caretaker, but doesn't have enough alpha to get the motor running. Once the kids have been created and mostly provided for, it's sexytime for some lucky alpha. [/quote]

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