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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Unfortunately, not writing back at all is not an option in this situation because the ex enclosed a sentimental item that they asked to be returned.[/quote]

Wait, so the ex sent an unsolicited letter as well as some sentimental object to you, but then is creating some false obligation by mandating you send said object back? And you feel not sending object/not writing back is “not an option” because….the ex deems it so?

Not only is ignoring this person an option, it’s the only course of action. Good lord. Ghost and block. Why do people borrow trouble?[/quote]

So, the spouse who received the letter from the ex thinks they have to respond because of the item the ex sent. So they respond, and say “we” can’t communicate in the future. 
A couple years later, when the spouse finds  out about this whole thing, the spouse is not happy about the way the situation was handled. [/quote]

OP here. Yes, this is the situation. I am not thrilled with how my spouse handled the situation and my spouse doesn’t entirely understand why. From answering the letter at all- especially when the ex had a history of some manipulative actions- to using “we” in the response.

My spouse actually thought I would be happy about the way it had been handled. That’s why we posted this- I started to think that maybe I was being too sensitive about it, so I wanted to run it by some objective outsiders to see if anyone else saw it the way I did. In the long run, the situation was harmless, but I’m glad to hear that I wasn’t totally crazy in the way I saw it.  :) 
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You do sound a little crazy to be picking this nothingburger fight years later. [/quote]

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