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[quote=Anonymous]Stumbled across this blog post: 
http://marriedmansexlife.com/2010/01/the-basics-part-1-what-the-hell-happened/

It really egged on my paranoia. Near as I can tell, I'm somewhere in Stage 5 with the wife losing weight, getting more energy, going out with her friends more, sex life perking up just a little. (But with no texts or additional warning signs of an affair.) But Steps 1 - 4 are just so dead, spot on, it's scary. Does this describe a common dynamic? Any of you gotten to Stage 5 only to have it really be - happily married couple starts having more, better sex and live happily ever after?

Here are the stages, paraphrased a bit:

Step 1 - Meet a girl; date.

Step 2 - Married. Sex is good but not all that wild. She gets pregnant, sex slows way down.

Step 3 - More kids; mortgage; work is harder; everyone is tired. Sex slows down more, even then she starts seeming like she's doing it more out of duty than desire. Marriage still seems happy.

Step 4 - Kids are a little more self-sufficient. She's less tired but still not much into sex with you. Asking for more sex turns into a fight. Sex is down to once or twice a month. Lingerie is a thing of the past.

Step 5 - Kids are a little older still. Wife gets more energy, hits the gym, starts looking good, a few new outfits, sex picks up a little - maybe even up to once a week. She's getting out with friends more, seems happier, which you like because you want her to be happy. But, she's getting more text messages these days.

Step 6 - There's been an affair. The details are devastating. "Eventually the keylogger on the computer and a sound activated tape recorder catch details of torrid sexual encounters. The affair doesn’t traumatize you as much as the knowledge that she’s doing things with her lover that she had previously given you a firm “no” to. The recorded sounds of her shrieking in pleasure under her lover both tear you heart out and turn you on. Your quiet sexless wife is apparently only that way with you."

Step 7 - She goes along with marriage counseling, but doesn't really try. Now you're divorced. [/quote]

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