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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He yells at you once a month and folks here think that is divorce worthy?  I don't.  Ofc I am the yeller in our marriage.  DH sat me down and said he thought the yelling was a symptom of a bigger issue.  We talked, I cried, and we are working hard to be more connected and supportive. I have stopped myself b4 screaming 2 or 3 times now.  It's hard to prevent as its like a rage attack.  Screaming is more about the screamer than the recipiant

I would tell him that you can not stand this periodic screaming and you will not stand for it anymore.  Each time he does, slap him on the side of his head and tell him to STOP screaming.  Or plug your ears and start screaming LALALA.  Work with him to break this bad habit.  Divorce over it?  No way.

Tough crowd here as usual.

JMHO. [/quote]

Hahaha of course a screamer thinks being yelled at once a month is no big deal.  Aww, and you “cried” when your DH called you out?  How adorable.  Screaming at your spouse is entitled, low class, immature behavior.  No adult wants to be yelled at.  Hell, that’s not even a decent environment for a child. You are so lucky your poor husband tolerates you.

And you are truly deranged for thinking that escalating to physical abuse is going to solve this, pp.  Are you trying to get Op murdered or hospitalized?  Please get therapy for yourself and refrain from your bad advice here!

OP, I was in your position.  DH would yell in frustration, at me, at the kids.  Everything was my fault.  It does wear you down and I cringed when I read how hopeless you felt.  I totally felt that.

It takes really serious marriage counseling to fix this and your DH has to understand that you are out the door if this behavior doesn’t change.  And like the other pps have said, this might mean that you need to change your living conditions or get a higher paying job.

But for now, you need to completely disengage every time he yells.  Leave the room, leave the house, let him know that if that’s the way he wants to speak to you, he doesn’t get the privilege.  Don’t escalate, but take it seriously and let him know this is serious.[/quote]

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