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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's odd that you think being busy = growing. Whatever that even means. Growth can be contemplative and introspective, and people don't grow when they're forced onto another person's activity level. They just get tired and crabby.

There's a book about introverts, it's called Quiet, I think it would help you to read it. [/quote]

I read it, at my husband's request.  It helped me understand he's wired differently than I am. I am asking how other couples with an energy disparity handle it successfully so that both partners' needs are met.[/quote]

Okay, well I think the first step would be to stop viewing him as inferior, lazy, stagnant, and worthy of contempt. Because even though you haven't literally said those things, that's what I think you've got in your head.

Second, carefully plan around his energy levels and accept his need for recovery. Don't overschedule him and prioritize sleep and rest.

Third, you chose him, so remember that. You did this to yourself.[/quote]

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