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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not trying to be judgmental, just trying to understand.

I wasn’t even the breadwinner, but immediately I found a one bedroom and made it work, just to maintain my independence. I was already used to paying part of a mortgage, and my rent was equivalent to my contribution to our mortgage. It was just a no-brainer. I maintained my personal routine, private life, and independence, just in a smaller space. But it was my OWN space.

I have a friend who has moved back in to her parent’s tiny three-bedroom bungalow with her parents. She brought her two kids. I can’t imagine how cramped it must be. More importantly, I can’t imagine trying to raise my kids with my parents underfoot. No privacy. Etc.

I have another friend who moved back in years ago, makes a damn good living, and still hasn’t moved out on her own again.

Do I just value my independence more? [/quote]

You are not trying to be judgmental, but "do I just value my independence more" is a pretty judgmental way "understand" why your way is better than their way. Maybe your friend wants to be with her parents. Maybe it wouldn't feel the way it would for you. Consider that if you actually want to understand why your friends are making these moves, asking them non-judgmentally, rather than making assumptions about how difficult it would be to be in a small space with your parents.[/quote]

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