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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's a good idea for kids to sample alcohol at home under parental supervision, and NOT in a party setting, if it's accompanied by education on the short-term and long-term deleterious effects of alcohol. We're French and over there you can drink wine and beer if you're 16. In practice, kids are given sips at home no matter the age at family gatherings. Making alcohol a forbidden fruit concept tends to work against you in the long run.

We rarely drink, and my teens and young adults don't really like the taste of alcohol, but know what it is.[/quote]
+1 DH is European.  Teens there drink a lot earlier than here.

We let both DS and DD try a bit at home starting at 16.  We started with weaker alcoholic drinks.

[b]If you remove the taboo, they are less likely to do it behind your back in secret.[/b]

I will say that one time, DS was going through a rough period at the end of junior year. I found several bottles of the hard cider we had bought for him to try in his room.  We had a long talk with him about not using alcohol as a crutch when things get tough.  He's a straight A student from a magnet program (rough period wasn't about academics, nor do we push him about it).  I'd rather they learn things the hard way at home, than when they are away at college where we cannot be there to support them.

He's now in college, and he tells us that he drinks at parties, and yes, he's gotten drunk.   BTW, he's still a straight A student now a junior in college, dual majoring in CS/math.  I don't think he parties hard every weekend.

I am not a drinker; I don't like that he gets drunk, but there is no way I can stop them when they are at college. So, at the least, we can teach them to drink responsibly and know their limits.

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Studies have actually shown that kids who are exposed to alcohol before legal age have a higher trial of developing alcoholism. Why would you want to remove the taboo? Nuts.[/quote]
Do you really think that just because you restrict your kid from alcohol in the house that they won't try it out of the house?

My parents are very conservative; my mother never drank. Guess what? I tried alcohol as a teen at parties. Never got drunk, but I tried it.  Same for my siblings.[/quote]

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