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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have a single happy memory of my mother. I’m assuming this is somewhat rare even for people abused like I was. I’m in my 40’s and have a great family myself now. If you did grow up with a horrible mother, do you still have happy memories? I just have a deep resentment and hatred towards her and nothing else. [/quote]
My mother was not kind to me and never showed affection. She verbally and physically abused me and neglected me physically, emotionally and medically. She was wonderful to my other siblings showing love, care and protection which was not given to me. I grew up believing there was something wrong with me and I was unlovable. I had an abusive relationship as a teenager which altered the course of my life.

I have not forgiven my late mother, as she never acknowledged the abuse and neglect. In her eyes, I was the source of all my family's problems. Once I was an adult and had my first round of therapy (4 years), I was able to establish a civil relationship with her. I have broken the cycle of abuse and dysfunction with my dh and our children through decades of therapy, commitment and a bit of "I'll prove a broken person can be happy, break the cycle and raise healthy kids."

The only happy memories I have are of being grateful she didn't hurt my siblings.[/quote]

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