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[quote=Anonymous]OP, don't go nuclear right away.

The statement that stands out to me is that your mom lives alone. Unless and until you yourself go through a week without being with/talking to someone in person, then it is quite possible part of the problem is she simply is spending too much time on her own.

When you don't have anyone to bounce things off it is very easy to ruminate and become paranoid. Especially when you are getting older.

Here's what I'd do: Tell your mom you have some sort of issue at home and you will need her to come and stay with you for a week or so.  Be sure to reiterate that you will NOT be taking her to a doctor - and don't.  Don't talk about her memory while she is there, just keep things easy and observe her. 
 
During that week try to make her feel as useful and wanted as possible - give her small chores, have kids ask for applicable help with things, take her out shopping, include her in conversations.

See if you notice an improvement after a week or so. If you do, then you know that having more social connection may be helpful and she may not necessarily be at the stage where her memory impairment is rapidly getting worse and she needs full-time care.

Keep in mind that many older adults have memory issues.  But other conditions in her life may be a factor.

Loneliness is the worst disease in the world.[/quote]

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