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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This article is such BS, it’s not about intensive parenting. It’s about having two working parents required to just get by, and then really expensive housing which makes everything else harder to manage and afford. [b]There was a lot easier lifestyle where without intensive parenting, when you had a parent, who was home to take care of everything related to the kids as well as clean and cook[/b].[/quote]

But this goes along with intensive parenting. A lot of what people claim is a necessary expense and why a second salary is necessary, really isn’t.

No iPhones for kids
Community college for kids or in-state at the most
Kids share bedrooms 
No or very few activities for kids 
Limited travel. Maybe one week vacation every year 
I could go on…

^^do the above and your expenses go down dramatically.

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DP. Even if you tried to live a 1950s lifestyle, could you? As a kid I lived in a 1600 square foot house. We knew the prior owner. They lived there with 6 kids. There were 4 bedrooms in that house and 2 were quite small. 2 bathrooms. A 1950s family would have had only one car. Grocery shopping and all other errands were done on foot (so has to be walkable) or after the car came home for the evening. Wardrobes are a lot smaller - both to save money and because you were cramming 8 people into a 1600 sq ft house.

I couldn't do it. Grocery store is not walkable from my house, and it's actually not that far it's just that we lack sidewalks on a secondary road that I'd have to take to get there. I have a similar sized house to the one I grew up in and cannot imagine cramming 3 more people into it (family of 5). Sure we could cut activities but the park my kids would then go play in for their spare time is across yet another busy road.

And even if I pared my lifestyle back like that, I'd have to do as you say and not plan on my kids getting to go to the college of their choice. And I just won't make that compromise.[/quote]

DP. You are proving the premise. You won't "compromise" your more modern lifestyle. [/quote]

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