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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First of all, you do need an attitude adjustment.  You are taking your child to be evaluated for a reason, you need to be open to hearing what the doctor has to say.  Otherwise, why are you doing this?  I'm guessing your kid is not just being a kid.  You don't say how old your DC is, but the cryptic reference to knowing right and wrong tells me you've hit some kind of roadblock.  You can call on resources to get over it, or you can curse at those resources and dig in.  Your call.

I guess I am defensive about this because I adore our developmental pediatrician.  He has made a MASSIVE difference in my DC's life and I don't know how we would be where we are today without him.

It isn't a "label" its a diagnosis.  Please refer to it by its proper name and not some dismissive insult.  And my DC is not in a shit spiral because he has a diagnosis.  He has gotten the supports and interventions he needed and is doing amazingly well.  My guess is that if you open your eyes and ears your child will do the same.

No, doctors do not give diagnoses when there isn't one to give if they are any good.  And they don't prescribe medication when it isn't needed if they are any good.  But my guess is that if your DC does have a diagnosis, and perhaps even could benefit from medication, that you will not be open to this possibility blaming it on BS and the like.

Here's a hint -- if you are going to insult the folks over here in Special Needs with words like shit spiral to describe our lives (and, sure, we've all had those moments when it felt that way, but that isn't what you are referring ) you won't get a lot of useful advice.  Tell us more about your DC and be open to what we and especially the doctor have to say and you might learn something.[/quote]

I think you were being a bit harsh with OP.  Yes, her choice of words was insensitive, but we have all been insensitive/judgmental re: other's children before realevizing that our own kid had SN, then the light bulb of empathy turns on.  While I agree with the message you were trying to convey, just because she's insensitive does not mean you should be. Also, please remember that she is embarking on a scary journey, one frought with doubt, denial, shame, embarrassment (we've all felt those emotions so don't pretend you havent).

OP, relax and when on this board just try to be more sensitive. We have all been there - that moment when it is suggested that perhaps your child needs to see a specialist.  It's ok to be scared, angry, resentful, fearful of his/her future, afraid of what others will think and say. Once you come to grips that your goal is to help you child, you are then better equipped to help him/her.

I don't recall from your original question but who suggested you see a Dev Ped? 
How old is your DC? 
What odd or "off" behaviors have you noticed? Be honest, don't pretend like there aren't any.  
And finally, all depending on WHO suggested you see a Dev Ped? that makes a lot of difference.[/quote]

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