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[quote=Anonymous]Hey op I posted a while back about being more or less forgotten on my bday including parents and friends. I don’t want parties etc but some acknowledgment would be nice.  the last time I celebrated my bday with anything more than a cake at home was 40. I’m 54. Kids took over my life but it’s more than that…

I think next year I’m going to plan a weekend away with a friend or two.l or spouse but I’m not going to dismiss myself like usual.

Maybe true for you as well but I think  a lot of us crave  acknowledgment of all we do for others and somehow feel we are selfish for asking for attention.

In our family, I take care of spouse, kids, fully responsible one of my parents with dementia and I manage ppl at work. I’m the doer, the manager, the organizer, the planner. I do all our trips, finances, medial appt, camp forms, figure out when kids need tutoring, cook dinners, organize carpools, plan family events and trips, pay our bills…I’m the glue for others and esp our family. I realize I just wanted to be seen for me and have someone else plan something nice for me for once but I’ve also never been encouraged to ask for it. I was raised in a family where my needs were not met and I became a people pleaser. It’s uncomfortable to ask for anything but being sad and slightly resentful isn’t the answer either. [/quote]

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