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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nope. Old people deteriorate. That's life.[/quote]

It is sad and not always easy to watch but I try to make my time with them joyful and remember that they had a long, mostly happy life. I am grateful for that.

I have a few close friends who view every bump in the road with their elderly parents as such a tragedy and/or huge inconvenience to them- as if the rest of us don’t have the same issues- and I have to admit I want to smack them at times. [/quote]

I've been told that once the cognitive decline is more severe, they'll be happier because they won't realize how out of it they are. Right now my mom is very frustrated that she can't think as clearly as she used to, and also frustrated that she is being treated like someone who can't think clearly (no one is being patronizing, but she's in assisted living and not driving, both of which she simultaneously realizes is the right choice and which she doesn't like)[/quote]

This is true, at least in my case.  My mom was a depressed and angry disaster for about two years while we navigated independent living then assisted living.  In retrospect I realized that it was because she was terrified all the time.  She didn’t know where to go or what to do and was constantly anxious about trying to navigate a normal world.  Once she settled in to memory care she’s been much happier due to the structure and the assistance.  [/quote]

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