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[quote=Anonymous]Op—my advice is try not to worry about the teen years being tough. Every stage has its good and its challenges and every kid is different. Although I know it’s way easier said than done, do your best to live in the moment and don’t fantasize about how it’ll be so much better when xyz because you will inevitably be disappointed.

But to answer your question, I think the teen years are hard for a few reasons. First, we are older when our kids are older. My DCs are in HS and college and I’m exhausted on a different level than I was when I was sleep deprived with babies in my late 20s/early 30s. Second, the sh*# they can get into is much bigger and has greater potential negative implications and you have way way less control over any of it. Third, are going in a bazillion directions every day and you have minimal control over their schedules because they are dictated by the activities they choose (vs you setting up play dates that work with your schedule, for example). Fourth, it is a natural part of development for teens to flex their attitudes and become more aligned with friends. They are trying to figure out who they are and that always means pushing back against parents—this is true on some level for even the most compliant, easy going teens. They are more likely to listen to a friend or coach or teacher than a parent. Lastly, teenage years are when hormones take over. Their bodies are changing and that impacts mood, sleep, appetite and it’s really easy for all of those things to get thrown into a blender. Teens = way less control (than baby/toddler/ES) which often means chaos with an attitude. [/quote]

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