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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the OP of this thread: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1216900.page

My parents don't have a very healthy or harmonious marriage (i.e. speak ill of each other to others, constantly bicker and fight even with company over, my dad has secret credit cards, etc.).

Basically,[b] if my mom doesn't agree with something I say or do[/b] she will almost always try to pull my wife in (@ mentioning her in iMessage threads, texting and calling her directly to talk to me and "see things the right way"). At first my wife would be polite and indulge her, but it just made the problem worse. Like there's some backdoor escalation point in our marriage if they don't like what their son has told them. I told them in no uncertain terms to please stop involving my wife in their dysfunction and trying to get between spouses, or else they won't see us and our child for a while. Sure enough my mother did it again, defended her action because I was being "disrespectful", and so I have set the boundary.

Am I being unreasonable? Does anyone have any tips?[/quote]

This is a huge problem. You should greatly dial back what your parents know or what you say to them. Your mom especially is a hardass and pushy so it's going to be rough, but you need to go through it to get to a better place. If you must say something, don't tell them what you're considering just be ambiguous until you and DW have made a FIRM decision. Your family (you, wife and child) deserves peace.[/quote]

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