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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She sounds very much like my kid, now 14, who was diagnosed first with ADHD (more the distracted than the hyperactive kind) and later with low level autism.  My daughter's emotions manifested not externally through hitting or acting out in anger as a boy's might have, but more internally via blaming herself and crying when a task would become too stressful.  Diagnosis, some medications, and an IEP really helped a lot.[/quote]

OP here. This is totally her. Her self doubt is high and she has horribly negative self talk too. Breaks down when tasks are too hard. It was harder to see when she was younger, because you could just write it off as a "tantrum". But now, I can see it's not that. She even said to me that she hates when she gets worked up over simple things because it's embarrassing and she worries people think she's a brat, but I can tell now that it's totally out of her control. [/quote]

I'm PP you responded to above and just want to tell you that while we as parents were concerned about how DD's autism diagnosis would affect her, she experienced it as such an absolute RELIEF to know that the problem's she was experiencing were basically not her fault, or something she needed to blame herself for, which was really affecting her self-worth.  This was true even while her ADD/ADHD diagnosis had come about 2 years earlier - the ADD medication basically was helping somewhat but was not solving ALL the problems, so she was still experiencing severe anxiety at school and at home with homework.

My daughter really struggled with perfectionism all through grade school and she still deals with it, but I also think the anti-anxiety medication she is on helps.  She went through a very difficult period toward the end of grade school/early middle school, but the ASD diagnosis has helped so so much and she currently seems to be thriving in high school - has supports at school, good friends, good grades, and positive feelings about herself which is the most important thing.  I think the diagnosis helped her see herself as a person heroically persevering  in the face of a setback rather than as someone who had all the advantages but was just constantly screwing up because they weren't ... I don't know, trying hard enough?  Although anyone could have seen how hard she was constantly trying.

My heart goes out to you -- good luck![/quote]

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