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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP, that sounds traumatizing, and you can certainly feel abused even if it was not meant to be abuse. When you say your mom should have realized her not wanting to do it meant to get a second opinion, I think to your mom, this literally was not sexual at all. It was no different than holding down a wiggly child during a diaper change or holding a crying child so they could get a shot. If you had a good and loving relationship with her, perhaps you would be more accepting of that "it hurt me more than it hurt you" type of mentality, but it sounds like she has been abusive and difficult in other ways so it's all the more traumatizing. I don't think you'll ever get the reaction you want from her. At least you were able to see in the literature that there are others like you out there... cold comfort, I guess, but I think your feelings are both valid and misplaced. It's just a bad situation, like if you had diabetes and your mom had to check your blood sugar, except it happened to be in a very sensitive bodily area.[/quote]

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