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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know if this is just a life phase that will end or if I need to make a new change or what. Historically I have not minded being the odd one out -- being the lone older or younger person in the office, the only woman at a social event, etc. It's always nice to have people you have stuff in common with but I'm pretty good at finding connections with others too.

But lately I feel like I don't fit *anywhere*. I'm the "old mom" at my kid's school plus I have an only in a sea of 2-4 kid families and on top of that I work a flexible WFH job when all the other parents are 9-6 in office.

I'm our neighborhood we are one of only a few families in our immediate area and most people are either a lot younger or are retirees. We get on well with the neighbors but I feel like we stick out and have different priorities.

I recently took up a new hobby but everyone I meet in the hobby is at least a decade younger and no kids. I've tried to see if other parents in our orbit will join me but they say they don't have time (because they work longer hours and have more kids than I do).

Even among our close friends I feel out of step. A lot of my friends are into pop music and it's just not my thing-- they want to go to Taylor Swift or the NKOTB reunion concert and I just can't get excited about it (and it's not how I want to send money). Some of my friends are very career focused now and my DH and I are the opposite-- we are looks my at an early semi-retirement in a few years, not digging in to nab another promotion. Others are focused on kids and family and while that's our focus too it's just us and our DD-- we aren't hosting big family holidays or spending tons of time with extended family.

Is this unusual? It's not like I have no friends or hobbies. I just feel like the outlier all the time and miss at least sometimes feeling like I'm among "my people."[/quote]

I feel this is middle age-I also feel like I don't have time to care anymore:) I think it's normal OP-I also think this area can make you feel like you "should" do and be things that maybe you don't really want to be.[/quote]

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