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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the first 4-6m my boyfriend used to plan fun dates. We’d go out to dinner, to a performance, or do an activity together, and he would really make an effort. Now it’s all dinner at home, walks outside, sometimes tennis. He’s a great guy; kind, honest, supportive and respectful and we take care of each other. Sex is not the best I’ve ever had but the best he’s ever had and good enough for me.

Unfortunately I feel like he is always stretched thin financially and it shows. He makes a decent salary but has child support obligations and a lawyer to pay. He does things himself that a higher earning person would outsource (like cleaning or home repairs) that reduce our available together time. He has never given me a gift although I do give him gifts (small ones though, like under $50 though will spend $300 for his birthday).[/quote]

Honestly this is why is preventing me from dating post divorce. I am 46 2 kids pay child support save for college both are in expensive sports and trying to stay afloat as far as my expenses while still saving for retirement. The assumption that a lot of men have (me included) is that women place a very very high value on your finances. We feel like a lot of women will stay clear of men like me who let's be honest are broke. My thinking may be outdated and hope it is. Women often say they have their own and that's true, but they often talk about doing big things loving a nice life and that cost money.[/quote]

I am divorced and out here dating and I think it's less about how you much you can spend on women and more about if your finances are shaky. My last SO (we were together for a decade) was strapped with two kids in college and rebuilding after divorce, but was creative about date planning and that was way better than him laying out a lot of cash and going into debt on some foolishness to impress me. I am impressed by fiscal responsibility. [/quote]

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