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[quote=Anonymous]You're getting some bad advice so far, OP.

-I definitely would not say anything to her. That is weird.
-And of course the Everyone is secretly gay" poster has to show up.

Psychologically, most people like to be around people who feel at the same level to them. It's hard to be around someone who consistently has a better career, more money, healthier family, better looking, whatever. Some of us do better with it than others, but I have found that a steady diet of someone who has "more" of something that you would like to have is exhausting. It is the constant reminder that you don't have it.

That being said, 1) I'm sure you're not the only person who feels this way around her, and she values you so much because you are a good and committed friend to her. That is a huge gift to her. 2) You can either stair step it down on how "done" you get when you're around her and see how it goes, or continue to put in a bit of effort when you're around her. Or lastly, which would be a shame, stop being around her.

I do wonder, given your remark about her problems don't seem that problematic--though you recognize it was an unfair thought--that deep down you sort of resent her. If so, you might think about why that is? [/quote]

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