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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My relatives just add the one-offs to the list of chores for the house cleaner to do that week. If there's too much, she can't do it all, and will spread it out over several visits (over several weeks), unless the homeowner wants to do it themselves. Some people do it themselves, because they're not the type to wait around while something curdles, but others are fine living with the problem until it's fixed by someone else  (and disabled or elderly persons are also in that category).

I can't afford to outsource anything, so either it sits undone, or I muster up the courage to do it: this week I cleaned the walls and baseboards that my fluffy dog likes to brush against, because after several months he ends up leaving an oily deposit that contributes to "old house smell". I have a keen sense of smell, like PP, so anything smelly bothers me until it's taken care of.

But I'm not good with clutter. My space is small and the piles of books and papers never go away. I just dust them...
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OP here and I think my DH is in the “until something curdles” category. He was raised in a family from a colonial country where all but the most impoverished had multiple helpers at home. I don’t think his parents knew how to manage cleaning once they moved here so he always seems flummoxed by my projects and maintenance worries.

I’m sensing that there isn’t a shortcut to the “noticing” part, but it feels better to do the work if there isn’t an easy way out.[/quote]

I think you're talking about something different here, OP. People with inattentive ADHD don't notice problems that aren't in their areas of interest and have difficulty organizing their lives and belongings. It's likely your husband (and perhaps his parents) have inattentive ADHD and just don't notice cleaning issues immediately and then don't know how to sort and triage. My husband and son have inattentive ADHD and have great difficulty noticing clutter, dust, and grime. My young adult son can dust, vacuum and mop, because I taught him, but he NEVER notices the problems. He needs them pointed out to him, which is really maddening. My husband is a lost cause, and hasn't noticed messes or picked up the vacuum in years.
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