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[quote=Anonymous]For the most part:
They will call when they f#%ck up and need rescue, are sick, or extremely bored 
They will text intermittently 
They will call rarely

You worry less as time goes by. They f&#ck up less as they learn. You haven’t lived until you get the nightmare call from a rural European public hospital and have to organize their care while trying to travel to them, and as worried as you are, in the back of your mind, you’re also furious because the bf or the bff did not make sure they got to the private hospital for which you bought insurance (ahem totally made up example). This call comes after six weeks in which you received only two photos and one snarky response to an innocuous text.

Bad things are going to happen. You are going to have no control. It will feel less scary if you prepare them for independence. When they leave it’s a process. You will probably worry excessively. Just remind yourself it’s ok. You will be calmer as time passes. For most of us, we’ve seen our children almost every day for their entire lives, if they were at camp or vacationing with friends or family, you knew someone was watching over them. It’s natural that having them out there on their own feels scary.

Eventually they will mature a lot, and hopefully you hear from them more for happy reasons and not because they want you to fix something. They’re meant to be adults. If you end up with a functional adult, you did something right.[/quote]

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