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[quote=Anonymous]Hello all,
My son is just starting his sophomore year at a large well regarded big 10 university. We both agreed that it was a good school, and he seemed to be excited before freshman year and after Christmas break. During Christmas, he acknowledged he was feeling a bit lonely, but simply dismissed it as being “it’s only freshman year” kinda thing, to which I agreed. Then second semester came around, and the whole loneliness thing didn’t really go away; but, he tried a totally new extracurricular that semester so he blamed that.

Well, since he started his sophomore year( only three days ago), he’s become VERY depressed and completely isolated. He’s living in a single dorm right now, as he did last year. He chose that for himself freshman year, because he was an only child and felt more comfortable sleeping alone. But, with this big college, you needed to choose your next-year housing arrangements literally the next month after you move in so he just stuck with that. Now he’s living in a single with little genuine friends in college and feels very lost, socially and academically.

I’m frankly deeply worried about him, because he can be very social if he’s with the right people. To be clear, he has many friends still from high school. His best friend actually was a year younger than him, but he just started at another college ( got rejected unfortunately). He was VERY happy during summer break: he’d work at his job and then bike over to see his friends and it seemed all was well…until college seemed to shock him again. We sent him to a catholic High School, where all the kids liked to hang out and play sports, but not do drugs or drink. He says he feels like he can’t fit in with anyone, because even the Catholic kids will frequently drink and stay up way too late on weekdays.

So, please, what do I do?? We’ve really talked this over a lot and, while he wasn’t that communicative as a freshman, we’re talking for hours over these last few days. I don’t know if a smaller college will be better for him. He’s deeply scared it’s already too late for him and then no college will accept him as a transfer etc etc. I don’t know if that’s true and, if it’s not true, what small college would be a good fit with a decently high acceptance rate. I really don’t want to give away the name of the college in this, so I think I’ve conveyed enough. [/quote]

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