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[quote=Anonymous]I have a close childhood friend who has effectively ghosted me.  A few years ago she moved to another city following her divorce and I visited and stayed with her for a couple of days, met her new partner, and returned to our home city with a promise to check in on her (now post-college age) kids who live in the area.  I had a great time.  Over time, I've noticed that my messages remain unanswered (or one sentence responses), calls not answered, my visits back to her city (for work, but with hopes to see her) never seem to work out (often she responds that she is coincidentally in my city, visiting her kids), and I was thinking about it this weekend and realized that we haven't had a proper conversation in 5+years.  Even tragic news (my parent's fatal illness) was met with a tepid "thoughts and prayers".   I have been living under the delusion that we have a friendship, meanwhile she has erased me from her life!  Of course now I'm obsessed with what I could have done to cause this ( we are still linked on social media and I see her engaging energetically and enthusiastically with our mutual friends but whenever I reach out it's crickets).  It hurts.  But more maddeningly, I wonder what I did to be exiled.  I'm someone who is hyperaware of how I treat others and it can sometimes come across as non-spontaneous, or insincere but I am very careful with my friendships - as we get older, it gets harder to make new friends, so I treasure the ones i have.  I don't even think there is any useful advice anyone can give me besides "let it go" but it does bother me.  Just writing it down makes me feel better.  #venting. [/quote]

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