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[quote=Anonymous]My mom remarried when I was 8 and my brother was 12, my stepdad had no kids, and they considered another. Decided against.

Honesty, I would have loved a baby sister or brother. I love babies and big families. And I think it would have worked out well for our family.

But here is the key thing to think about: how is your husband’s bond with your kids?

My stepdad (one of the best people I know) loves us immensely. The debate was “should we have one more?” since he already considered us his. And my dad was (and is!) active in our lives (joint custody!)

If instead the conversation is “maybe I want one of my own?” - he will always treat that baby better than his step kids and your kids will play second fiddle. Even if he tries and has good intentions.

Think hard about your husband on this. And honestly, it’s not a judgment. Lots of people (including probably myself) would struggle to feel the same towards step kids and biological kids. If that’s your husband, pass. But if you’ve got a diamond of a man there with a huge heart and a lot of love for your kids - then go for it!

Your fertility will be a mystery until you try.

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