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[quote=Anonymous]Posting anonymously as people who know us are on here, and my son would disown me if he knew I’d posted about this, even anonymously, but I’m really not sure what best to do to help him in a really difficult situation.

So, my son is 11 and starting his new school next week. He’s a lovely lad, and has always surrounded himself with great friends. He had a friend around for a sleepover last night after they’d been out playing football most of the day in the sun. No trouble, they were actually both fast asleep much earlier than I expected, clearly worn out from running around all day.

Unfortunately, for the first time in at least 5 years, he wet the bed! He’s absolutely devastated, and I just don’t know what to do to help reassure him. This morning when they woke up I think he was just in shock, he was very quiet and didn’t really react much - a couple of tears away from his friend as I was ushering him into the bathroom, but he pretty much just shut it out and tried to pretend it hadn’t happened.

His friend wasn’t unkind, but didn’t say much either, and it was a bit awkward. He left much sooner than he usually would, and son has been very quiet all day. I’ve tried to reassure him that these things happen, its almost certainly just a one off as he was so tired and had drank a lot more yesterday with being so active and then last night whilst sat watching videos with his friend, but at the same time don’t want to make a ‘thing’ of it and embarrass him any more.

This afternoon he broke down, absolutely sobbing and my heart just broke for him. He’s mortified, and so worried that his friend now thinks he’s a baby who wets his bed all the time. He’s also terrified that he’ll tell others, and that everybody at his new school will know what happened. And, understandably, he’s panicking that it’s going to happen again tonight.

We’ve had a bit of a cuddle (a rarity these days!) and I’ve tried my best to reassure him that his friend is a nice lad and probably just feels embarrassed for him, glad it wasn’t him who had an accident, and absolutely won’t want to hut him by telling anybody else. That there may be a bit of friendly ribbing, and no doubt when he’s 18/21 or getting married he’ll be reminded of it, but that it’s absolutely not the end of the world. He’s calmed down now and distracting himself with Fortnite, but he’s still not himself and I know it’s eating away at him. For such a happy, confident young lad just setting off on his next adventure at school I don’t want this to dent his confidence, and I’m not sure what else I can say or do to help.

Any advice greatly appreciated, as I can’t ask anybody in real life without him packing his bags and moving out! [/quote]

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