Reply to DC siding with abuser

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "DC siding with abuser"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry, OP. I can't imagine how hurtful that is. My husband is verbally abusive and [b]my kids and I act like a team to back each other up when he starts on one of us.
[/b]
I know a girl who sided with her father when he made mean remarks to her mother. In that situation, it was because the mother had severe anxiety issues, and didn't know how to fight back effectively and communicate her side of things (even though she is ivy-educated and very intelligent).

The interesting thing, though, is that daughter grew up and matured and is now much kinder to her mother. The two have reconnected. But it was really hard during all her adolescence.

Don't stay silent, OP. Take your child apart and explain how people should treat other.[/quote]

What a horrible position to put your kids in. You make them live with an abuser and expect them to go against him to protect you. Don't be surprised if they resent that.[/quote]

SHAME ON YOU. You don't know my situation or that of my kids. Don't you dare judge my choices. And FYI, my teens are now 19 and 14 and support me 100%.

You absolute worm.
[/quote]

You are the one who described her husband as abusive and dared to tell op what to do with her child, as if she would have never told them how to treat others until you suggested it. Your kids will have to live with how they were treated, your inability or unwillingness to change the situation, how you were treated, and that despite their efforts to act as a team, they couldn't stop the abuse. Those are hard things to cope with. I hope they are able to build healthier living environments for themselves in the future, with all the help they need to do so. And I hope that if they come to you with regrets about their experiences that you are able to respond with compassion rather than defensiveness and name-calling.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics