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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to get a solid 4-5 hours of uninterrupted sleep. For me at this stage, that was the 630-10:30pm timeslot. So when baby slept then, I slept. If baby woke, DH handled it. Always. Otherwise yes, DH needs to learn to manage alone so leave for a few hours on a weekend morning/afternoon. Meet a friend, get a pedicure, see a movie etc.[/quote]

This.  Make sure you get out of the house, even if only an hour or two, and let him figure things out on his own.  Block off a solid 4-5 hours of sleep for you, and have him handle things.  Invest in ear plugs or a sound machine or something.

We had a similar situation.  I got 10-12 weeks off with both of our children.  DH took one week when our first DD was born and only 2 days with our 2nd, who arrived at the height of covid shutdowns, which means I juggled a newborn and 3yo without any sort of outside help (no nearby family, either).  It was a miserable experience, and I've come to the conclusion that it enabled DH to become a complete slacker in regards to doing anything kid-related (to include prepping food and cleaning up, doing laundry, etc), even several years later.  I wish I had insisted on a more equal division of labor from the get-go.  He decided I could handle it just fine on my own, and so here we are.

Don't be me.[/quote]

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