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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry if this is in the wrong place. Let me start off my saying that I’m a SMBC. My child (6) wanted to have a play date with a friend from her kindergarten class last year. I exchanged numbers with her mom at the end of the school year to try to work something out. Her child has been busy most of the summer with vacations and camps so we lost contact for awhile. She reached out about a week ago to set up a play date. I offered to have it at my house and sent the address. She responded back a few days later and said, she would prefer to have it at her house. I didn’t really think anything of it so we scheduled it. The kids had their play date and in the end, they said the next time they can have it at our house. I said I was fine with that, but the other mother said it’s not a good idea. I asked her why not, she didn’t want to discuss it in front of the kids. She sent me a text that evening and said she doesn’t feel comfortable with her child at my house due to my “lifestyle” and where I live. I asked her what lifestyle is that? She said, me being a single mom. She also added that my address had an apartment number (I actually live in a townhouse style condo) and she knows what goes on with single moms in apartment buildings. I asked what, and she said drugs and violence and women having men in and out of her place. She didn’t want her child exposed to that. I’m completely livid! I can’t even believe how harshly thing woman judged me, but doesn’t know anything about me or my life. At this point, I don’t even want my child at their house, but I know they would be crushed. Not sure how I should handle this. Any advice?[/quote]

I'm trying to learn to accept all evil as just demon energy and try to find the good in people or at least show my good behavior. It's so hard and I'm so sorry. Obviously single mom by choice would mean that there are few men so the comment is just stupid and she's an ignorant person. So you don't need to feel like you have to defend something that is so obviously untrue. Honestly playdates are a lot of work, so I'd throw it back to her and say that not only do you not have any men in your house but that you chose a lifestyle of no men in your house and you live in a townhouse, not an apartment. But that said if she wants to host regularly or have playdates outside you are open to it and thank her for her generosity in hosting.[/quote]

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