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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For context, my SN child is 7 and has level 2 ASD, significant ADHD, epilepsy. So his special needs are undeniable and we are open about them.

When my older children (9, 11) have complained, I 1) acknowledge that it is not “fair” that he gets xyz special treatment or that they have to tolerate xyz behavior. But then I 2) emphasize that it is a whole lot less fair that their brother has to work so much harder at friendships, school, take medicine, etc and still doesn’t get to enjoy success at those things and finally 3) emphasize that they are their brother’s keeper (which I tell them means that they have to be kind to him even when he is very aggravating, and help their friends understand and be kind to him too).

We also have the SN brother go to bed an hour before older kids, use that time to focus on them, and it sounds like you’re great at that. The only other thing that I find really affects the happiness of my kids and how much they focus on these things is how much peer social time they have. So I really work on making sure there is a lot of social interaction in our home- that their friends “acclimate” to the oddities of their brother. If brother is melting down while friend is over, I’ll isolate him and put on a show. [/quote]

It sounds like everything revolves around the one brother. That will breed resentment over time.[/quote]

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