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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 3 kids and it feels like we are just off schedule with everyone else. We traveled for half the summer. When we were back, other kids were in camps or also traveling. If we reach out to plan something, parents will say they are unavailable.

When school starts, I know scheduling won’t get any easier since everyone is so busy. My kids all play multiple sports. Even if one kid is free, we may be in the car driving sibling(s) to practice or to a game.

Anyone else feel like it is hard to plan a play date?

I have one kid starting private school 20 min away and I’m sure it is going to be that much worse since now his classmates will be scattered around the DMV. [/quote]

Why are playdates so important? Your kids see their school friends in school 30+ hours a week. Are you afraid that other kids are hanging out together without your kids? You may need to sit down for this, but yeah, that is happening. So what? Your family prioritizes sports. You can't have it all. Private school kids tend not see each other outside school as much as public school kids do, and that is just part of the private school experience. Again, you priortized something else, so you need to make peace with your choice and let go of all this anxiety around what other people are doing without you.[/quote]

Just because kids see their friends or might see their friends at school 30 hrs a week doesn't mean it's good socialization. Socializing at school or other activities is a good thing, another type of socializing. But, it should not replace good old fashioned unstructured, unorganized free play/ hang out time. Something that kids/teens today are sorely missing [/quote]

Socializing at school isn't "good" socialization? LOL the level of anxiety regarding these insignificant details of how/when/where your children socialize in insane. OP, you chose a highly structured schedule. That means much less unstructured time. If you want more unstructured socialization then ditch all the organized sports and hang out with other families who ditched organized sports in order to have more unstructured leisure time.

You cannot have every single thing on your List of Things That Constitute a Perfect Childhood.[/quote]

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