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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get all these drastic end things posts. My friend won't initiate so I'll cut off. My brother doesn't see me enough, so I'm done. People can lead very busy stressful lives. There are people among us with cancer who haven't told you. There are people struggling finacially. There are people who's kids are ill. Get over yourself.

Stop pursuing and leave the ball in your friend's court, but don't throw people out becuase the stress in their lives may make it hard for them to meet your needs.[/quote]

It's not like I'm sending a box of black roses with a note saying 'you're dead to me.' I just stop reaching out. Since I stopped, the communication and visits stopped. [/quote]

Well that's good because there are drama queens who make a whole big deal. The thing is, assume there is a valid reason. I agree with your idea to stop trying, but if the friend reaches out give friend a chance. I myself have so much going on in my life I don't even have time to analyze the state of my friendships. Had one friend who knows all the stress I am under-personal illness (not life threatening though) and other symptoms that have required testing and more testing, ill parents (could be life threatening), and other major life stressors together with work and family life and yet she still flipped out at me for not returning calls or visiting or inviting her to stay with us. She herself admits she rarely returns calls and she has said many times her weekends are all about sleeping in, getting sushi, watching a movie, maybe a date, etc. I would like one weekend like that or even a day like that. Maybe if I had that kind of chill time I too would obsess over who does what I want, but I doubt it. I think I would eat chocolate, dance around the room with glee and watch cable (which we don't have).[/quote]

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