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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know sometimes the friend "thinks" she is initiating everything, but really what she is doing is being impatient.  Not everyone has to do something every weekend or has to hang out with someone constantly.  Sometimes I just want to get together once a month.  [b]You text daily and call every other day, it gets overwhelming.[/b]  I don't know how many times I have planned to ask my friend to do something only to get an irritated text or call from her accusing me of not wanting to get together. [/quote]

I guess different people have different boundaries. I had a a friend who I used to text or email quite a bit, and she definitely found it overwhelming. I wish she had told me before flipping her lid over it; I just thought I was keeping in touch. On the other hand, I have a friend who texts me daily, just a how are you doing thing, and it is really no big deal. I respond or not to some or all, and the texts bridge the gap until we see each other. I mean, mindless texting and calling isn't really overwhelming to me.

OP, some people will always have to be the initiator, but it doesn't mean your friend doesn't care, but she may not be very good at making contact. On the other hand, she could be like the poster above who is easily overwhelmed. You need to find out one way or the other before either driving her or yourself crazy.

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