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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Even if the young man's intentions are innocent, and he's in this situation because he lacks the skills to get out of it, it's a safety situation.  Because the child is learning to expect looseness in the boundaries between adult and child, and so is going to be more susceptible to grooming from someone whose intentions are innocent.

I would start by sending him an email something like this:

Hello Henry,

We are Larla and Larlo Smith, parents to Larlita Smith.  It has come to our attention that you have been receiving and replying to emails from our young daughter.

We want you to understand that what you are doing is unsafe.  It is unsafe for her, because even if you don't intend to hurt her, you are teaching her that she should feel comfortable with this kind of contact, and puts her at risk that the next young man she reaches out to will do the same.  It's also unsafe to you because if a parent were to make a complaint, you could yourself in big trouble.

I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt, and ask you to block my child's email, and the email and phone number of any other children you met at camp.  If you email me back assuring me that this is done, I will take that as a sign that you made a mistake and your intentions were innocent.  If I don't hear from you, or if my daughter receives another email from you, even one that says goodbye, I will contact the camp and the police.

Thank you for putting my child's safety first.

-- Larla and Larlo Smith

Then I would sit down with your child, let her know that you saw the emails and that he was wrong, and that you have instructed him to stop, and that if an adult ever tries to contact her in this way she should come to you.

Finally, I wouldn't use that camp next year. [/quote]

Yep, you’re insane.[/quote]

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