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[quote=Anonymous]My DH acted like his job was his only priority in life for 25 years and counting. He essentially forced me to stay at home because he wouldn’t help with any drop offs, pickups or hiring child care. He didn’t do anything for the house, had never entered a grocery store, etc. He didn’t even make a lot of money, just a workaholic. Finally he gets a high paying position, only for the circumstances to change and he makes less now than he did 15 years ago. He never cared about the money or providing for his family. He gets some kind of rush from constant ( like 15 hour days) work that I have not figured out.

I have to come to terms with accepting that I was naive to think I could change him, and that I enabled his poor behavior. I advocated for myself but it was never successful in getting through to him.

I left him and now he can work all the time without a nagging wife and doesn’t have to spend time with his kids. I can barely survive because his income dropped so much from when we were married. He would do his job for free, he would pay to do his job. It’s a psychology I’ll never understand and wasted years of my life making his life better as mine got worse. He’s rewriting history that I was selfish and he was doing everything.

They never appreciate our sacrifices for their careers and ambition. Don’t continue to give without getting your needs met. [/quote]

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