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[quote=Anonymous]Books & walks - that’s my jam.

I have felt awkward at work, because I do work with a few people who are always traveling, or have these kind of drama filled lives.i don’t really want to have their lives, but I have felt kind of without a response when they ask me what’s going on with me.

But after years of observing others, I’ve realized there are a lot of us out there. The key to not feeling awkward at the office small talk is to just pick something that you can share about. I’ve seen people who were into gardening - or who knows, maybe they didn’t really care about it that much, but they had a couple of tomato plants & would report on that. A pet is a big thing, people will talk about what is going on with their pet, the funny thing they did or whatever. One coworker was into making cookies, & she’d say that she tried a new recipe. Another had a bird feeder, & she’d talk about being happy she set up the feeder, or how expensive it is getting, etc.

These were all women, as am I. & it just made me realize that a lot of us just do pretty normal stuff.

So I kind of learned 2 lessons from this - feel free to talk about what normal stuff you do. Like the David Sedaris book - I would be totally interested to hear what book of his that you found sub-par. And about your shower - isn’t it annoying how quickly you have to replace a liner? Can’t they invent something better? And your volunteering - what happened this wk?

And lesson 2 is, if the work small talk is making you feel awkward, find a topic you like well enough & can provide a canned response when necessary. Books, baking, birds, gardening, walks, etc. it does not even have to be something you really care all that much. But if you cook for yourself sometimes, you can talk about how you tried a new recipe & hated it.

TLDR, your life sounds lovely. If you are feeling awkward at work making small talk with coworkers who are vacationing around the world, just find what you would like to share. In my experience, any sharing with a positive intention is welcomed. 
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