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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you should start job searching. It seems to be one major stressor that's influencing everything else.[/quote]

I agree with you and I am job hunting but [b]I'm getting hung up because right now I have the "flexible" job and am the primary parent and when I look at other jobs I know there would be an adjustment period where I'd really need to focus on that job for a bit and lean on my spouse to take the lead more at home and with the kids. But I have this one kid who is just really struggling right now and it feels like the worst possible time to do that -- I think she would feel abandoned and it could make things worse. She is going to a new school this fall in an effort to improve this situation and I have a neuropsych lined up for her as well. Every time I look at another job and think about switching I think about all this stuff with her and get really worried and stressed and think "no I should just stay where I am until she's in a better place."[/b] But then I also feel frustrated and resentful that I feel like I have to be the one to do this because my spouse is kind of checked out on this front.

I don't mean to make excuses. Perhaps I do just need to get a new job and then figure it out and maybe my spouse will rise to the occasion and maybe I'm worrying too much about my kid and she'll demonstrate more resilience than I give her credit for. Or maybe it will be good for her to see me doing something hard. But these thoughts are what keeps stopping me and why I feel so stuck. Something absolutely has to give but it also feels like a house of cards where if I screw any of these things up too much it will make the others worse. Thus the paralysis.

So I job hunt and I'm networking and exploring opportunities but am afraid to pull the trigger on anything and worry the timing isn't right.[/quote]

I am sorry you are struggling. I agree with waiting until fall.  That's only a month or two away. For now, update your resume, write some draft cover letters, and quietly network.  Ask prior friends/coworkers for job recommendations, but don't post on Linked In, or put that you're "looking for work".

However, if your dream position pops up, take it as a sign and apply.

Good luck OP, I'm sending out positive thoughts. [/quote]

Thank you for the good advice and the positive thoughts. Definitely haven't found any dream jobs yet but I'll keep looking.[/quote]

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